How to overcome Perfectionism and Fear of Failure?

How to overcome Perfectionism and Fear of Failure?

Do you strive to be perfect? Never feeling fully satisfied with where things are now? Do you think you are not good enough, think of yourself as a loser?

If you want to be the most, the first and the best of all…Stop it! Perfectionism is destroying you.

Perfectionists are highly critical of others and themselves. They strive to achieve their best performance and goals in everything they do. What they can’t accept in themselves is something they reject in others.

They try to please others with their performance. And although it encourages them to excel, it also instills a fear of failure.

If you strive to be perfect, you tend to compare yourself with others and often try to demean them.

People try hard to have their lives look perfect in order to mask massive underlying issues.

Do any of these statements sound familiar to you?

I have been told I am too judgmental, often thinking the worst of others

I feel that others have unrealistically high expectations of me

I hate asking for help, because it can be perceived as a flaw or weakness

I can’t stand being interrupted

I can’t stand it if my house/office is not organised meticulously

I think that others are constantly judging me and feeling dissatisfied with me.

I get really upset when I feel criticized

I feel I have to do everything myself because nobody can do things properly

I can’t stop thinking about a mistake I made

It is difficult for me to delegate

I want something either perfect or not at all

I am constantly checking and rechecking work before considering it finished

I am careful about how I phrase things so people will like me

I find it very difficult to say ‘no’

I feel guilty if I take time for myself

Asking for what I want is hard for me

I avoid any situation which could be confrontational

I am reluctant to form relationships with others for fear of being rejected or looking foolish

I get irritated when others don’t get things right

When I have made a decision I often doubt my choice

I avoid social situations because I feel uncomfortable

I feel inferior to people more successful, more attractive than me

People will look down on me if I look foolish or make a mistake

I feel devastated if I make a mistake

I am very competitive and can’t stand doing worse than others

I avoid trying things I might not be good at

I don't want others see my imperfections

I worry about what people will think of me

I want to be thought of as a nice person

I am a fault-finder, I must correct other people when they are wrong

I find myself obsessing about the finer details of a task

I felt that I could never meet my parents’ expectations

It is hard for me to complain about a poor product or service

I tend to be quite critical of my family/colleagues which causes arguments and bad feelings

I feel anxious if I think someone might think badly of me

I am very self-conscious about making mistakes in front of other people

If I don’t do well all the time people won’t respect me

I hate it if I don’t get something right from the beginning

Every project I do has to be 100-percent perfect

I don’t like it when others don't do something the way I do

I like to be ready for everything that can happen

If I gain a few pounds, I will look like a pig

I am often tense and depressed when I need to do something

I can be very fixated on details

If people knew my true self, they would dislike me

If during a diet I eat one cookie, I continue to eat because I have already ruined the diet

I will look terrible if I wear shorts because my legs are fat

I often use the word “must”.

Entertaining is good, but only after I finish all the work

I am never really satisfied with my work; it never feels completely finished

My self-confidence depends on my achievements

If I fail, I tend to ruminate about it over and over again.

I can never have anyone over to dinner because my house is messy

It’s hard for me to finish projects because I can always do something more to improve them

If my report isn’t perfect, I’ll get fired

I’m indecisive because I’m afraid of making a mistake

I have to volunteer for every project

I have to endlessly prove my worth at work and it is exhausting

It is hard for me to think outside the box

Nobody ever appreciates me

Although I earn good money, I constantly think that it’s not enough

I want to feel and look successful, so I spend a lot of money on clothes and status items (cars, phones, etc.)

Perfectionists tend to be:

• Competitive

• Defensive and over-emotional

• Ambitious

• Critical, picky

• Fussy, judgmental

• Aggressive or hostile

• Afraid of criticism

• Fast walking, talking, speaking

Here are some negative effects of perfectionism:

• Anxiety

• Depression

• Beating yourself up

• Panic disorder

• Social isolation

• Insomnia

• Exhaustion and tiredness

• Muscle tension

• Working endless hours

• Rumination

• Increased self-criticism

• Sexual dysfunction

• Low self-esteem

• Repeated checking

• Obsessive-compulsive disorder

• Excessive amount of time spent on tasks

• Putting off tasks (procrastination)

• List-making

• Being over-thorough

• Hating to waste time

• Decreased creativity

• Decreased job satisfaction

• Eating disorders

  
  

In this course you will learn:

1. How to deal with challenges and failures

2. How to stop worrying about everything

3. How to overcome inner critic

4. How to achieve your goals

5. How to behave at work

6. How to say “NO”

7. How to deal with negative thoughts

8. How to stop being harsh and unforgiving

9. How to make a decision without stress

10. How to stop being rigid and inflexible

11. how to overcome the fear of failure

12. How to stop worrying about your body image and weight loss

13. How to raise confident and happy children

14. How to overcome painful emotions and be happy

15. How to overcome jealousy

16. How to stop judging people

17. How to stop having high expectations of people and life

18. How to stop worrying about losing your job

19. How to be pleased with yourself

20. How to be a positive person

21. How to be assertive

22. How to overcome your deepest fears

23. How to deal with mean people

24. How to accept reality and circumstances

25. How to deal with grief and loss

26. How to be mindful

27. How to outgrow your childhood experiences

28. How to raise a non-perfectionist child

29. How to deal with anxiety

30. How to praise yourself and your achievements

31. How to be grateful

32. How to communicate your needs and desires

33. How to use the correct language

34. How to deal with negative thoughts

35. How to find a perfect partner and be in a happy relationship

36. How to communicate with friends without stress

37. How to overcome aggression and resentment

38. How to start changing your life

39. How to show empathy

40. How to listen to somebody

41. How to overcome the fear of growing old

42. How to react to criticism

43. How to let go of control

    
    

Perfectionists are people who are supposed to be successful and happy, but strangely are not. They are highly critical of others and themselves. They strive to achieve the best performance and goals in everything they do. Despite being wealthy, healthy, famous, and gorgeous, they are unhappy.

Perfectionism makes you stay home, not take chances, and procrastinate on projects. It makes you think your life is worse than it is; it keeps you from being yourself; it stresses you out.

This course will help you to give up perfectionism and start living a happy life. You will learn to overcome procrastination and keep moving toward your goals. This course will also give you some tools to overcome the fear of failure, anxiety and negativity. You will learn how to make good decisions and be more flexible.

How to overcome the need to be the first, the most, the best of all. Perfectionism in relationships, at work, in family

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What you will learn

• How to deal with challenges and failures
• How to stop worrying about everything
• How to overcome inner critic

Rating: 4.6

Level: All Levels

Duration: 4 hours

Instructor: Narmina Gasimova